Why Do I Seek Reassurance In My Relationship?

UPDATE: Colleen contributed to the article: Why Do I Need Constant Reassurance in a Relationship? (50+ Reasons From Experts), written by Aerielle Alejandro, for UpJourney

Constant reassurance is something that we all need from time to time. It’s not just women who need it, but men too. We all have times when we feel like we’re going crazy or that everything is falling apart around us. When this happens, we can become very unsure about ourselves and our relationships.

And when it comes to our romantic relationships, a lot of us struggle with insecurity. We all want to have partners that can do life together, feel safe around, and loved. Yet, often we worry about whether we are good enough for someone else, whether we are being treated fairly, whether our partners think we’re attractive, and if our partners still love us. Sometimes, we just need constant reassurance that our partners care about us.

The need for reassurance isn’t always because of problems in a relationship. Some people may feel insecure simply because they don’t know how to handle rejection well. They might fear that if they do reject someone, the person won’t take it well, or they’ll somehow prove themselves unworthy. Or maybe they’ve had a previous relationship where things didn’t work out and they fear they’ll never find another one again.

Whatever the reason, if you’re feeling insecure in your relationship, you may need to work on developing better ways to deal with rejection. But the real issue here is that you’re probably struggling with low self-confidence and poor self-worth. If you’re having trouble trusting others, you may be wondering why you can’t trust your partner. And if you’re worried that your partner doesn’t see you as attractive anymore, you may wonder why he/she continues to date you.

You could also try reading books or articles on self-esteem and confidence building. These resources will teach you how to develop more positive beliefs about yourself and improve your self-image. You may also benefit from reading books on communication skills. This type of training teaches you how to communicate effectively with other people. By learning new techniques, you’ll learn to express your feelings clearly and accurately so that your partner understands what’s really bothering you.

If you’re still looking for answers to these questions, then you should consider seeking professional help. A therapist can help you identify the underlying issues behind your insecurity and provide solutions that will allow you to move forward in your relationship.

Get Support From A Mental Health Professional

The staff at New Heights Counseling wants you to know, you can have that healthy self-confidence in yourself and your relationships. Our therapists are trained to help you develop new skills so you can learn to manage your feelings more effectively and identify the root cause of your constant need for reassurance by utilizing appropriate therapeutic techniques.  Call us at (850) 757-1552 to set up your initial individual session today. Check out our staff bios on the website at meet our team. We’ll help you understand why you need constant reassurance and provide solutions for overcoming any insecurities. We offer free phone consultations so call today!

Other Mental Health Services Offered At New Heights Counseling

New Heights Counselor offers therapy for a wide range of issues beyond those who struggle with reassurances concerns such as couples and family problems, parenting skills, anger management, anxiety, depression, stress, grief, loss, abuse, trauma, PTSD, self-esteem, confidence, body image, eating disorders, and many more. We want to help people achieve success and experience inner happiness and contentment.

Our services are for children, adolescents, and adults and we offer in-person sessions at our Fort Walton Beach, FL location and online therapy for the state of Florida. We are located on the 2nd floor of WorkSpace Suites at 1992 Lewis Turner Blvd, Suite 1057, Fort Walton Beach, FL 32547. Get directions here on Google Maps or visit our office location page.

Appointment Schedule (Last appointment – 4 PM)

Sunday Closed

Monday 8:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Tuesday 8:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Wednesday 8:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Thursday 8:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Friday 8:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Evenings/Weekends by Appointment

Additional Resources:

• Why Do I Need Constant Reassurance in a Relationship?, NOCD staff
• Why do I need constant reassurance?, The Chelsea Psychology Clinic
• Do you love me? How to stop needing reassurance in a relationship., Amy Hartle for Two Drifters
• Welcome Video from New Heights Counseling Founder & Clinical Director, Colleen Wenner

Not ready for counseling yet? Read these blogs written by New Heights Counseling therapists.

• Codependency Relationship: A Lack of Genuine Communication!
• When Should I Seek Counseling?
• Overwhelmed With Anxiety, What Can I Do?

About the Author:

Colleen Wenner started New Heights Counseling because she wanted to help people struggling with mental health concerns. She is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Colleen is a certified supervisor in Florida as well as an EMDR trauma-certified practitioner and consultant in training. Colleen is committed to providing excellent client care and services the Fort Walton Beach, Crestview, Niceville, Destin, and surrounding communities.

Colleen has always advocated for mental health well-being and she has dedicated her entire life to raising public awareness about mental illness. She has been featured on a variety of podcasts such as Practice of the Practice (The #1 Podcast for counselors in private practice), Shrink Think Podcast, and The Salty Christan Podcast to name a few. She has also contributed to several articles for Yahoo Best Life, Unfinished Man, and UpJourney. Colleen guides her clients through an understanding of themselves and their ability to change their lives for good by using compassionate, authentic, and nonjudgmental communication.