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    UPDATE: Colleen contributed to the article 6 Questions to Ask Your Partner That Keep the Spark Alive, Therapists Say written by Abby Reinhard for Best Life.

    Relationships aren’t easy. They’re messy, complicated, and sometimes downright difficult. But there’s no reason you shouldn’t be able to maintain a healthy one. If you want to keep things burning hot in your relationship, it helps to know what works and doesn’t. Here are four questions to ask your partner to help keep the relationship alive.

    1. Do you need “you” time?

    As a couple, you spend much time doing life together. It’s just as crucial for both of you to carve out personal time so you can recharge and relax. Time away from each other can be very beneficial for your relationship and kindle feelings of love and passion. When you’re apart, it helps you appreciate being with each other even more when you get back together.

    2. What can I do for you today?

    Anticipating and fulfilling your partner’s needs is key to keeping the spark alive in your relationship. Show that you want your partner’s needs met by ensuring they know how much you care about them. Be attentive to their moods and emotions. Make sure you are available to listen to their problems and concerns. Give compliments where appropriate and communicate openly and honestly. You’ll draw your partner closer to you because they feel special.

    3. Would you like a massage?

    The sensations of touch can be highly pleasurable. A massage is an excellent way to aid your partner in relieving stress, promoting relaxation, and providing a chance to connect physically and emotionally. This question demonstrates your commitment to your partner’s well-being and shows that you care. You understand your partner’s physical limitations and are willing to accommodate those needs.

    4. What’s your favorite date we’ve been on together?

    A question about a specific memory of a date with your partner shows your appreciation for them and your relationship. Take this to the next level and recreate the event. To relive this special moment again, create new memories together; feelings of closeness and intimacy can be rekindled through reminiscing.

    Communication Together is Important

    Communication is key to keeping the spark alive in your relationships. When you feel you’re being shut down emotionally or physically, take time to communicate your needs. You’ll feel better once you’ve had a chance to express yourself. And you’ll have a much easier time working things out together. Look to schedule intimate dates where you can talk freely without distractions. Don’t let your busy lives prevent you from having regular connection times. Set aside time for physical touch and sex. And as mentioned above, don’t forget to give each other space and time to recharge.

    Seek Professional Help if Needed

    If you struggle to keep the spark alive in your marriage, seek professional help. And if you’re not getting what you need, counseling can help you work through these issues. Couples counseling can provide support and guidance as you learn to resolve conflicts and improve communication skills. If you’re struggling to maintain the spark in your relationship, consider couples therapy.

    Get Support From A New Heights Mental Health Professional.

    The staff at New Heights Counseling wants you to know that help is available. Call us at (850) 757-1552 to set up an individual or couples session with one of our professional counselors who can help with your relationship concerns. Check out our staff bios on our website at meet our team. Our therapists will walk you through the process of resolving problems, developing healthy communication skills, and creating positive changes in your life and relationship.

    Other Mental Health Services Offered At New Heights Counseling

    The staff at New Heights Counseling provides counseling for a wide variety of concerns, such as couples and family problems, parenting skills, anger management, anxiety, depression, stress, grief, loss, addiction, abuse, trauma, PTSD, self-esteem, confidence, body image, eating disorders, and many more. We want to help you succeed and live healthier, more productive lives.

    Our services are for children, adolescents, and adults, and we offer in-person sessions at our Fort Walton Beach, FL location and online therapy for the state of Florida. We’re located on the 2nd floor of WorkSpace Suites at 1992 Lewis Turner Blvd, Suite 1057, Fort Walton Beach, FL 32547. Get directions on Google Maps or visit our office location page. Our office hours are Monday through Friday, 8 AM to 4 PM. Evenings/Weekends by appointment. Call (850)757-1552.

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    About the Author:

    Colleen Wenner New Heights Founder Clinical DirectorColleen Wenner is the founder and clinical director of New Heights Counseling, where she provides counseling services for individuals struggling with mental health issues. She is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Master Certified Addiction Professional. Colleen is a certified supervisor in Florida and an EMDR trauma-certified practitioner and consultant in training. Colleen is committed to providing excellent client care and services the Fort Walton Beach, Crestview, Niceville, Destin, and surrounding communities.

    Colleen has consistently advocated for mental health wellness and has dedicated her entire life to promoting awareness among the public. She has been featured on various podcasts such as Practice of the Practice (The #1 Podcast for counselors in private practice), Shrink Think Podcast, and The Salty Christan Podcast, to name a few. She has also contributed to several articles for Yahoo Best Life, Unfinished Man, and UpJourney. Colleen uses compassionate and authentic communication to help clients understand themselves better and feel more confident about their ability to improve their lives.